There can be no doubt that apparent ‘lesbianism’ amongst the new ‘in crowd’ is on the increase. Female pop stars and models are regularly seen kissing each other in public, on stage and well just about everywhere (geographically speaking). But the question has been raised, is this true lesbianism or rampant marketing by the men behind the celebs’ images? Are the men behind the girls just cashing in on the male sexual thirst for such behaviour.
The argument runs that the girls are allowing themselves to be manipulated into pseudo lesbianism to push sales of products that the girls promote. I’m not sure of the link here. The girls generally promote items that only women buy. So why would other women suddenly start buying related merchandise as a result?
If it is marketing and the Phoney Theorists are right, it can only make commercial sense if it is marketing aimed at men to promote them to buy perfume, clothes and other products endorsed by the celebs involved. Forgive me, but I don’t see men rushing to buy feminine products for their girlfriends or wives just because two female celebs made out. In fact, the act is guaranteed to send all blood rushing south and away from the male brain which needs to be involved in making the link to the merchandise. That is even if they know what products the celebs are linked to.
According to the Phoney Theory the male thinking process needs to be
"Hey, two girls kissing,hmmm. Now that reminds me, X celeb advertises Y product. I must therefore go get Y product for my girlfriend/wife in the hope that the Y product will make her act/be/look more like X celeb."
I doubt it, very much.
In my experience the male thinking would go along the lines of
"Hey, two girls kissing,hmmm…." Mind blank due to blood coursing out of brain area and to groin. No thinking process continues.
I am not saying the Phoney Theory is wrong. It would be indeed a shame if the girls were falling prey to some cynical marketing ploy that I have not yet worked out (please enlighten me if you know). Women have fought hard to get recognised and to have celebs in the media falling prey to such gimmicks could well set women’s causes back some way.
But, there is of course the point that maybe these girls are doing it because they like it! Now, that is a thought. Maybe they are just exploring their sexuality. Maybe they themselves have taken the decision to try out a little FF action. God knows the men around at the moment are a pretty dull, uninspiring lot (with some notable exceptions of course ;))
However, as a writer of predominantly lesbian erotica, I find that most of my readers are, in actual fact, women. So there is actually a large pool of women out there who like the thought, if not the actual act, of sexual contact with another woman. Perhaps, therefore, it is a marketing ploy but not one aimed at men as thought by the Phoney Theorists, but a ploy aimed directly at the latent lesbian, erotic nature of women in general. Now that I can understand. If so, surely it is nothing more than the ‘sex sells’ mantra that has been around for ever.
I have to say, the sight of some female celebs kissing is pretty damn hot. Would it make me buy linked merchandise? I can’t say. This kind of thing works on such a deep level who can really say yeah or nay.
I certainly think girl on girl kissing is more likely to make girls buy linked merchandise than two male celebs making out would make men buy linked aftershave, or shaving products! But I can’t imagine two male celebs being persuaded to try a little bit of MM action for the cameras.
Whether or not there are hidden agenda here, or whether or not men behind the scenes are making the girls act like this, as long as the girls are enjoying it I can’t see how it really matters. It would of course be good to see the girls supporting women’s causes around the issue. That would silence the Phoney Camp. Supporting women who have suffered for their sexuality whether in the home, at work or in society generally would be a good cause to get linked to.
I have to say seeing two hot celebs making out makes me hot as hell. If you like reading hot FF erotica then look no further than Miyuki: The Silence of Deep Snow http://tinyurl.com/q2t7sd3 or some of the FF confessions in my Erotic Confession series http://tinyurl.com/nw7ud2y.
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This could almost be a teaser for my next novella ;) … don’t want to reveal too much xxx
Research shows one in three sexual encounters now takes place online. How sad is that.
Excuses range from “I am in a long term relationship and we are in different countries”, fair enough to “I don’t enjoy actual sex, but I enjoy the thrill and fantasy of digital encounters”. I am assuming the person who made the last comment was not talking about good old fashioned fingering!
Since the advent of the phone, phone sex has had it’s allure, that’s for sure. Who hasn’t made a naughty call or sent a risque photo or sexted. But to go the distance and say that that actual sex is not enjoyable? I am either way out of touch with modern sexual thinking or something very wrong is happening.
Society has already seen a move towards preferred social interaction being online. Social Media has taken over. It seems people would rather text each other when standing within talking distance than speak to each other. We measure our self worth by how many ‘likes’ we get on our Facebook page or how many ‘hits’ we have on our blog. It’s only a matter of time perhaps before our online performance gets rated, liked or trolled.
Not only is online sex between couples increasing, which is just another form of sexual play which is fun and stimulating, but, online cheating is also on the increase. A full 6% of people questioned admitted to some form of digital sex with someone who wasn’t their partner. Taking into account that most of the encounters are not deleted from the device used and that most people don’t have any real password protection, it can only be a matter of time before some poor wretch finds their most intimate performance has gone viral overnight.
Not only is this happening during the day but it has also invaded the bedroom. In a separate study it was found that hardly anyone reads before going to sleep these days. Most people check their Facebook page, Tweet, Pin or Post. I have to say that I still liking curling up with a sexy story before bed. It lets me wind down, lets me share some intimacy with hubby and, who knows, it may even lead to some off line digital sex, no app needed. I’m sorry, but nothing in my view beats the real thing.
However, if you have to have sex with your mobile, computer or other online device in hand you could do far worse than by downloading some good old fashioned erotica to get you and your digital lover in the mood. It’s discrete, ready to go in seconds and sure to get you hotter than any hand held device on the market. So whether your preferred sexual partner is 3G, 4G or Or-gy buy some Erotica by Carla Croft, no one does it hotterer,
Love Carla x
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Why do scientists have to investigate everything these days? Surely there are some things that are sacrosanct. If you know the ins and outs of something does it really make you appreciate it more? Can’t we just leave somethings alone? Sadly no: like mad mechanics, scientists are even starting to poke around under a woman’s sexual hood bringing all sorts of machinery and investigative techniques to bear in order to find out what turns our motors.
Being an erotic author, sex is one of my favorite topics. I constantly need to think about what it is that turns both men and women on and what makes them tick sexually. My view is that it is natural and should be practiced rather than studied. However, the act as well as its workings, are coming in for a barrage of prodding, poking and penetrating scientific study, as well as mathematical analysis and even philosophical circumlocution.
Take the Big O for example. Scientists in Holland have found that orgasm is, apparently, located in something called the Orbito-Frontal Cortex, or OFC. How did they find this out? Easy, they simply strapped women into an MRI scanner. Then they let the woman’s partner pleasure her.
According to our esteemed Dutch cousins, if a woman can’t achieve orgasm it is because they don’t “let go” i.e. shut their OFC off. This, they say, is a necessary precursor to the OFC doing its orgasmic stuff. Can’t let go? Surely the poor old OFC can’t “let go” because it is being subjected to the full glare of scientific scrutiny. Didn’t the scientists stop to think for one moment? Can’t they see that their results may be skewed just a teeny bit by having to chose women who could “let go” in front of a crowded operating theatre. In such surroundings, packed with technicians and plugged into a huge metallic doughnut that sounds like an aircraft taking off can anything or anyone truly “let go”? But hey, who am I to criticize eminent, scientific research. I am sure they have extremely impressive credentials.
Just to prove that for every scientific view there is an opposite, another group of scientists claim that it is the Pre-Frontal Cortex that is the source of a woman’s orgasmic power. These two organs could, for all I know, be one and the same but who knows? Who cares? According to this second study it seems that the PFC, which governs imagination and controls urges, works in at least two ways to achieve orgasm. Firstly without a partner; here women have to use their imagination. In this case the OFC/PFC turns on. Secondly with a partner where the OFC/PFC turns off. Presumably, because having a partner present means you don’t have to conjure up an imaginary lover. In my view, as all women know, we generally still have to use our imaginations when we have a man there. So again this rather skews the findings.
The purpose of this second study was to “investigate the role of imagination and ‘top-down control’ in triggering a physiological response”. In my honest opinion ‘bottom up control’ is far better at getting the physiological response I need. Imagination or no imagination, bottom up works for me every time.
Completely at variance with the findings from Holland, the second study shows that far from turning off when a woman orgasms the OFC/PFC shows increased activity. To my untrained scientific mind, this shows that it is far from turned off when err… turned on. Confused? I have more chance of understanding Einstein’s laws of Relativity than this stuff. The same part of the brain, called different things by different people, does different things when watched by different people, when basically the same thing is being done. I wonder why that is? Let’s run the scenarios through from the point of view of the woman under examination shall we?
Scenario 1. Woman pleasures herself, she uses her delightful OFC/PFC to conjure up all the sexy, romantic scenarios she needs to really “let go” and pow, orgasm. The OFC/PFC lights up like a christmas tree.
Scenario 2. Woman has sex with man. OFC/PFC shuts down. Why? Well you can’t really use your imagination when all you can think about is when the hell is he going to cum and get this over with so that you can get off the damn machine and pull the wires out.
Perhaps all the scientists are seeing is the difference between real and fake orgasms. I tell you, I’d fake it to get off the machine and back into the changing room. So watch out girls, don’t have sex whilst hooked up to an MRI or your secret will be out.
Not content to let investigative scientists have it all their own way, even mathematicians have got their beady little pencils trained on us. Harvard math majors have taken the art of dubious sexual investigation to the next level. They studied that paragon of sexual honesty…on line dating questionnaires. Now you would think that Harvard grads would have more intelligence than to base their research on the answers given by people in their on line dating questionnaire. Whereas some people lie on their CVs, most people lie on their tax returns and EVERYONE lies on their on line dating questionnaire.
Didn’t this teeny bit of a problem impinge on their minds at all?
Take for example the following statistic they came up with. Apparently it’s over 3:1 ON that women will enjoy giving oral if they are a vegetarian and over 1:1 ON if they are meat eaters (I’m not even going to try to make a pun out of this).
Sorry guys WAY OFF TARGET. In my experience most women don’t really like giving oral (there are some exceptions of course ;)) whether veggie or meatie. What they will say on an online form to make themselves sound more fun and up for it and hence more likely to get a date is one thing. When faced with the actual deed, it’s a far different story. I hate to burst your bubble boys. Doing it and liking it, BIG difference, HUGE.
Similarly, the survey reckons that on average your veggie/meatie male is 8:1 ON to like giving oral to his lady. Oh purlease! Most men I have dated have had to be practically forced to do anything that remotely resembles pleasurable activity in that department. The only thing that is guaranteed to make them go down is a hand on the back of the head. After having given my all for them and lying back expecting some me time the results are invariably disappointing. They generally take a huge breath as if I haven’t washed for a week, screw up their face like I’ve asked them to drink stale beer, give a few hopeless laps of the tongue in the vague direction of my most intimate areas and give up saying I must be frigid. Again I would have to question whether these on line men were telling the truth or maybe talking themselves up to sound more attractive. What do you reckon?
Finally these mathematicians offer advice to women selecting males based on these surveys alone. To get closer to the truth they say, you should take off two inches from the man’s stated height and 10,000 pounds off his salary. And they want you to take their findings seriously? My advice? Take four inches off his stated length, add a hundred pounds to his waistline and add in that he is probably married.
All of this scientific study is supposedly geared to do one thing. Make us better at sex and or get a better response in bed. The more we understand sex, they say, the more we can tailor our technique or get in the groove for what is required. Sounds like we are taking the fun out of the bedroom to me.
Some thinkers have even tried the philosophical approach. Just why, they ask does the female orgasm exist at all? To my mind it’s a no brainer. Evolution doesn’t do anything without a reason. The female orgasm, therefore, must serve a purpose. My answer is as follows. Pleasure from sex promotes women to have more sex and hence more babies. Reproduction of the species is, after all, the only logical reason for why we are here at all.
The only evolutionary hiccup of course is that men have developed to be so absolutely hopeless at making it happen for us women! A woman left to her own devices would much prefer to have a vibrator and some alone time. The workhorse of evolution, normally so magnificent, seems to have tripped up by gearing women to have orgasms to promote them to have sex but making men so useless at giving them.
I had a blazing row at University once with a girl studying biology. She boldly stated that the human female is the only female of any species capable of experiencing orgasm. I had only that morning read a science article on the very topic. Female monkeys have been shown to have all of the same tell tale orgasmic signs during sex in terms of both physical response and brain activity as humans (back to the scanners again). Although one can not be sure that the monkey was having the Big O the evidence was convincing. We had the most amazing row until I stomped off to the library photocopied the article and shoved it under her nose.
So now my question is: if the male monkey is good enough to give his mate a good time during sex without all the research, books and articles and front brain advantage (theoretically) of the human male, why can’t human males do the same? If the modern human male is being out performed in terms of technique by a monkey the modern male must have lost something along the evolutionary way. Perhaps our cavemen ancestors were much better at it than modern day man? Orgasms for both sexes makes evolutionary sense doesn’t it? What is good for the goose is surely good for the gander. Why only give men the guaranteed pleasure during sex when it’s the woman that is going to have to give birth and do all the work? It seems like some evolutionary short changing is going on.
In my opinion the modern male has obviously lost something that has been preserved in other species i.e. the ability to please the female during sex. I am not convinced that the evolutionary back step here is going to get redressed. Men will more than likely remain clueless and useless and it is women who will have to take their own pleasure into their own hands (more often than not literally). Can all this scientific, mathematical or philosophical research help? I am not so sure. Not with the approaches currently being utilized.
My final word on the topic is that some researchers (both men interestingly) have found, after conducting the world’s “largest experiment”, what we women have known all along. A man’s sexual brain is “relatively simple”: RELATIVELY!!! Whilst a woman’s is like the “cockpit of an F1 fighter jet”. Although they could have chosen a better simile than “cockpit”, you won’t get me to disagree with the finding.
So can an “F1 fighter jet”, like a woman’s sexual brain, ever be piloted by something “simple”. It’s a no brainer.
What is it with these researchers? Why carry out these experiments to prove what we already know? Why don’t they just ask their wives? Wait, oh I know, because we are too sophisticated for them to understand!
It’s like a lab rat studying the scientists by running around a maze clueless.
Despite all the best endeavors of scientists and mathematicians to find out what is going on I don’t think they are any closer to really finding out. Moreover, who wants to know? Why do we have to try to understand something so fundamental? It just is. So leave it alone. My advice to men, get down and do it, find out what works for yourself and your lady friend. If you do it right she’ll soon let you know, that is of course unless she is faking it!
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